Author Archives: tej preet kaur

The Right to Choose

On June 13 2010, France’s President Nicolas Sarkozy was determined to introduce a bill to ban Muslim women from wearing burqas or niqabs, despite warnings from France’s highest constitutional body that the ban would infringe constitutional rights.

Under the guise of liberating Muslim women from the full veil, the bill passed in France’s lower house with flying colors; 335 votes were in favor of the ban, while 1 vote was against the ban.  If the bill passes through the Senate in September, which Sarkozy believes will not be a problem, our Muslim sisters will face a 150 Euro fine if seen covering their face in public.

Whether you agree with women wearing full burqas is not the point.  The point is that the government of France is targeting Muslim women and criminalizing them for the way they practice their faith, all in the name of gender equality.  When has revoking women’s basic freedom to choose ever resulted in gender equality?  Imagine the heavy decisions that lay ahead for our Muslim sisters.  What will they feel on the day that the law is implemented and they are forced to decide between the law and their faith? Continue reading

Standing in truth

have you got the

will to surmount mountain-high obstructions? if the whole world stands

http://www.iranian.com/Arts/Dec97/Neshat/

against you sword in hand, would you still dare to do what you think is

right?

– Vivekananda

A friend posted the quote above as her facebook status and it sent chills up my spine.  The pointed questions and truth in the quote challenged my core and quite honestly felt like a punch to the stomach.  I think my reaction clarifies the amount of work that lies ahead of me in order to react positively to this question.  The goal is to ultimately be so grounded in our truth and values that when challenged by the strongest powers, we stand in our truth – no matter what.

What were your initial thoughts, insights and feelings upon reading the quote?  What do you think it takes to stand up for what you believe in?  How can we ground ourselves in our truth(s)?

Quick and Dirty Tips by Grammar Girl

I was recently reintroduced to Grammar Girl, a short and fun podcast that provides ‘quick and dirty tips’ on grammar and writing.  Some of you may be questioning the fun factor in the podcast, but founder Mignon Fogarty, does a great job of breaking down writing rules and providing anecdotal examples and tips.  With a New York Times bestseller and over 57,000 followers on Twitter, she is bringing the sexy back to good grammar.   She even tweets full sentences!

You can listen or read online here.

Dear bhuaji

May 15, 2010

Dear bhuaji,

Earlier today, I found myself in a conversation with you.  Although it took place in my mind, I felt comforted being in touch with you.  It has been awhile.  We last saw each other 12 years ago when you came over and dad broke the news to you about what happened.  You left the next day and confronted your husband, who denied everything.  And our relationship was over.  We never saw each other again.

How does this happen?  How do situations in life become so complex that a lifetime of love disappears?  It was like you never existed anymore. Continue reading

Bridging the Gap between Radical & Tradition

I recently watched Kavita Ramdas’ engaging TED talk on Radical Women, Embracing Tradition and haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since.  Ramdas, the president & CEO of the Global Fund for Women, explains how the concept of ‘tradition’ can be brought into radical thought and be used as a tool to create social change.

She calls this solution a ‘third-way raga’ that challenges some of the most common Continue reading

Power & Memory

By Guest contributor, Sara Andha

“The struggle of [wo]man against power is the struggle of memory against forgetting.”

-Milan Kundera, The Book of Laughter and Forgetting

Some thoughts and feelings at the intersection of race, gender and memory…

To some, feelings are momentary. The emotion comes over you, like a wave, it consumes and throws you around. Mercy to the power of your physiological response to an external stimulus…  and then it recedes. The wave has been felt and passed. To others these feelings still haunt. Not always, but its there. Waiting. Hiding behind corners until something triggers that feeling again. As Southasian women I believe we carry more than our fair share of emotional baggage. Growing up, the violence, whether covert, overt, emotional or otherwise are enacted on us. Continue reading

Reaching for the stars? No, just a little lower

Reaching for the dust of the feet of the saints

The line above is a common expression in gurbani, which relates to a state of utmost humility.  Although I have read this expression many times, I must admit that I recall once scoffing at the literal translation thinking that it was unattainable and perhaps even a little dramatic. Luckily, I had the opportunity to revisit my negative judgments during a conversation with a close friend, who recently brought this state of humility into my reality and day-to-day experiences.

We came upon this topic as I reflected on how I was struggling to find validity in my work and career. Despite working in the field of my desire, I have found myself at the ‘bottom of the pyrimad’ with little room to apply my knowledge and experience in meaningful ways. My ego was suffering, to say the least. Continue reading

Let’s talk about stress, baby…

How to Live a Less Stressful Life: 10 Simple Tips

The American Psychological Association (APA) reports that 54% of Americans are concerned about the amount of stress in their lives.  So with stress still on the rise, I found the following 10 tips helpful on how we can reduce the amount of stress in our lives, courtesy of The Positivity Blog by Henrik Edberg.

1. Accept the situation.

Stress is often to a large part resistance to what already is. You may be in a stressful situation and think to yourself that this situation shouldn’t be, that you shouldn’t be here. But the situation has already arisen, is here, and so are you.

So to decrease the stress and resistance you accept the situation. With your resistance gone or lowered you can now direct your mental energy and focus to finding a solution in a level-headed manner instead of trying to do it while panicked or confused. Continue reading

Opening up new possibilities for happiness and awesomeness

The Positivity Blog.

From the moment you open your browser to this page, you feel nothing but uplifted.  The screen displays bright colors and has people jumping in pure bliss; it feels like you have come across a wonderful secret.

When you move past the clean aesthetics, you will notice that the content is honest, insightful and relevant.  Henrik Edberg, the 29-year old author from Sweden, claims to be no psychologist or expert, but rather an enthusiast who believes in growth from personal experiences.  I was initially weary about his young age, but quickly realized that his blog not only reflects on issues that affect us in our day-to-day, but provides us with the tools on how to incorporate the solutions into our lives.  For instance he gives you functional tips on How to Take Consistent Action or 5 Ways of Using Limits to Get More Enjoyment Out of Your Life Today.

You even receive a free e-book when you sign up for the listserv.  I’ll let you check it out for yourself.  Let me know what you think!

http://www.positivityblog.com/

*PS – I was not paid to endorse this page in any way!

Politicizing the Sacred

I was recently thinking about a teacher of mine, who had an incredible impact on my life.  I was reflecting on what it was in particular about her that was so unique from other professors and teachers.  Beyond impacting us with her deep knowledge, wisdom, honesty and unfaltering discipline, she taught us how to politicize the sacred.

This process gave us something that we had never experienced in an academic or spiritual setting.  It involved tearing away our ego and finding ourselves in the Other.  After discussing some of the most horrific violences in society, we were assigned to find ourselves in that violence.  I had no idea what that even meant when I was asked where I was located in the murder of Pamela George.  I remember being bewildered, even dumbstruck, alongside everyone else.

How mystical it was! Continue reading